You aren’t smart enough? You are pretty enough? You don’t have enough money! You will never be able to do that! You just aren’t cut out for this. Have you ever heard such foolishness? I know I have!
I remember it like it was yesterday after it was announced I received a full track scholarship at our family reunion when my cousin said, “I didn’t know people from 8 Mile go to college”. My response through demonstration was yep, sure do, and get Bachelor Degree’s and Master’s Degree, make six figures, start non-profits, operating successful businesses and the list goes on.
If you allow people to talk you out of your dreams and aspirations projecting their own limitations, fears, prejudice and anxiety onto you, you won’t be able to manifest everything promised to you.
That almost happened in my business. In 2013, God gave me the name for our organization Detour Movement Inc. based off Romans 12:1-2 which speaks to be a living sacrifice for God and not conforming to the patterns of this world but being transformed by the renewing of our mind.
I allowed myself to align with so many different coaches most of which did not teach nor understood the spiritual laws that governs success. So they spent a considerable amount of time trying to change me to who they wanted me to be rather than who God called me to be. Can you relate to that, connecting or investing time, money or energy in a relationship that God never intended for you to be in and rather than moving you closer to God or your purpose, they end up moving you further way? That is exactly what happened. I had coaches forcing me into a box and I went as I was confused where I belonged and since I was paying them to coach me I did as I was told. Chose a niche they say. So I choose dating.
Now I have to apologize to you because for the last eight years I thought I was a dating coach helping singles live the life the love and attract the love of their life. I do that, I am good at doing that but it is level to this thing. Over the last 12 months and even more so the last 12 hours I got crystal clear that I was put on this Earth to help millennials and really Xennials (those born in the late 70s and early 80s) manifest everything they desire focusing on three key elements faith, family and fulfillment. I am a Transformational Scientist serving Xennials renew their mind, elevate their life and manifest thriving relationships from their money to their man.
Tip #1 Get clear on what you want.
Back to my story, as a young child 12 years old, I was clear on what I wanted. I wanted to earn a full athletic scholarship and have a chance to be an Olympic athlete. That clarity motivated me to do research and find out how others had done the same thing.
Tip #2 Be Intentional! Find out where it is and How to Get it
So I decided to go school scouting as a seventh grader! I went to three local high schools, R. B. Stall, North Charleston High School and Garett Academy of Technology. Nothing was happening in terms of the track program with Stall or Garett. A good friend of mines at that time, Alisa Smith and I had promised one another we would attend Garett together because everyone was going to get split up based on recent redistricting. Despite that I knew, I had to renege on my promise first for myself if I ever was going to have a chance to earn a full-athletic scholarship. Have you ever faced a decision like that? Wanting to stay with your friends and family but knowing that “everyone who came with you can’t do with you” Steve Harvey. This soon became a trend even after I exited high school and head to college. I didn’t always have the courage to go alone. God set me up with people who made false promises which give me the assurance I need to move on. This came in the form of my ex-boyfriend. I wanted him to go to San Diego with me so bad. I made him promise he would come with me. I am grateful he released me and let me go. I appreciate that he gave me something, that I could give myself at that time, and that was permission. I know it was nothing but God using Him at the time. You may or may not have that same opportunity so you can’t wait for someone else to give you permission, you must give yourself permission to do what ever is in your best interest. If that person is true friend that have your best interest at heart, they will understand.
Tip # 3 Just Do It! And Don’t Quit Even When You Feel Defeated.
One you are clear on what you want, you find out where it is and how to get it! Make a decision to go after it and JUST DO IT! I decided to attend North Charleston High School; I continue to run track each year. I had to make Sacrifice along the way including quitting band after 8th grade, quitting basketball after 10th grade, doing ever block starts and Saturday practice even after my coaches, Curtis Hazelton and Billy Griswould left my senior year. I was devasted and I felt defeated, but I could put all my trusting a coach and beside they had trained me for over five years, now it was myself to master everything they taught me.
As Nike says, just do it. The only limitations you have are the ones you place on yourself. If you think you can, you will; “if you think you can’t, you won’t either way you are right” Henry Ford. It is your choice. “Destiny isn’t a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It isn’t a thing to be waited for. It Is something to be achieved.” William Jennings Bryan What decision will you make today to manifest your destiny tomorrow?
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Over 10 Industry Leaders & Coaches Come together to Talk about the Importance of Self-Love and Abundance
With today being the Superbowl Sunday for Christian Churches, being resurrection Sunday, the day Jesus Christ risen from the dead after laying down his life is the epitome of love. So we thought it fitting to do a recap on our Loving Me More Online Conference. The more you start to see yourself the way Christ sees you, the more things and ways you will learn to love yourself. My sister, Treal Ravenel and I hosted the Loving Me More Online Conference to serve as a platform for women to put loving themselves back on top from their faith, finance to their fitness to producing fruitful relationships. What better way to do that then to bring in some of the top experts on the topic of love and abundance.
We asked each speaker "Why is it important to love yourself and how has loving yourself help you to manifest the life and relationships you desire (as it pertains to your topic)?"
Day 1: Releasing Limiting Beliefs & Establishing a New Mindset
Day 2: Releasing Toxic Emotions & Embracing Physical Well-being (Body & Emotions)
Day 3: Releasing Physical Clutter and Establishing Systems and Boundaries
Day 4: Releasing Limiting Beliefs Around Money and Embracing Abundance
Day 5: Releasing Toxic Relationships Manifesting Fruitful Ones
Grand Finale: 5 Secret Steps to Transformation Your Life with Jill Bulluck and Treal Ravenel on Thursday, 25 April 2019! We will be highlighting some of the top requested speakers as well. Click here to register
Day 1: David Burrus, Int'l Speaker & Author
David Burrus graced the Loving Me More Challenge which kickoff on Day 1. One thing he encourages faith-centered women to do, is to let go of detox thinking and move closer to the life they desire by "moving from the woods to the water". Meaning rather than staying in a familiar, comfortable place rather at your job, in a situationship, in your current state of mind, to a place of uncertainty and total dependence on God. David Burrus said, "you will never reach your full potential in life if you always have to see what is on the other side" of each opportunity.
Meet David Burrus! He has over a decade of ministry behind him, David A. Burrus is today a leading voice in proclaiming the gospel of grace around the world through his teaching resources, seminars, workshops, and conferences. A highly sought after conference speaker, David has impacted church leaders and laity by preaching the Kingdom message with practicality, transparency, and authority. His humorous, relevant, and engaging message have afforded him the opportunity to serve as a guest speaker for ministries and organizations locally and globally. Although the challenge is over, we are highlighting some of the top interviews, click here to access replays for a limited time.
Day 1: Che Brown, The Happy Entrepreneur
1.) Belief in what is truly possible and what you truly deserve. "It’s an inside job!"
In an exclusive interview with Che Brown, he shares the three things that are holding women back. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 2: Tera Carissa, Philanthropist & Prophetess
"It is important to love yourself, #1 because God loves you and you need to agree with God. When you love you, you make healthier decisions for you. When you love you, you protect you. When you love you, you know you have a divine right to God's promises and everything He's promised you. You stop at nothing to live at peace, be at peace and thrive in peace. No storm, pain, obstacle, or destiny can deter you. Loving myself and standing in the power that loving myself yields has helped me set boundaries with toxic people, thus giving me the space and clarity of mind to manifest the life of my dreams. "
Tera Carissa Hodges enjoys being of service to all mankind. An empowerment champion through her speaking, media appearances, coaching, and mentoring, helping people become empowered despite their past and mistakes is her passion. She enjoys serving the community through outreach initiatives and organizations she supports. Her international invites and international media outreach include: South Africa, England, Ghana, Australia, Bahamas, Kenya, Nigeria, Togo, Trinidad and Tobago and more. Tera has also appeared on numerous national television programs, radio shows, and magazines such as: Essence Magazine, The Word Network, Stellar Award-Winning Radio 1000, and more. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 2: Treal Ravenel, Transformational Scientist
"Self-love is self-care. In order for you to appreciate, value, and accept you, you must learn the art of loving yourself. Part of this journey includes forgiveness and letting go. Letting go of things, people, behavior, and mindsets that strip you of your Love Power. Loving you is necessary for these reasons and beyond. When you truly learn how to love yourself from the inside, you are able to properly heal from past hurt and unforgiveness, You will no longer fear rejection or avoid opportunities to grow. It is in that place you are able to evaluate self destructing and sabotaging behaviors and attitudes and replace them with Self-Love!"
Treal Ravenel show wives how to experience marital satisfaction through improving communication and intimacy. She is purposeful in positioning Women to Win in their life and relationships and demonstrate to wives how to master their role as a wife while mastering marriage God’s way. Treal is known as the Master Wife Coach & Life Transformation Scientist. She infuses the word of God with science and research in working with influential women who are ready to experience life & relationship transformation. Treal is a sought-after Transformational Speaker and Author of multiple books one which is an Amazon Bestseller “In It To Win It” 31 Day Guide on How to Improve Communication and Maximize Intimacy in Your Marriage. Other books and programs include: The Marriage toolbox, In It To Win It Couples Coaching, Wives in Warfare Challenge, and Wives Who Win. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 3: Jill Bulluck, Marriage Prep Coach
Commit to using the powerful word NO! Never say yes to others, when it will compromises your values, beliefs, your health, your sanity or significantly jeopardize your cashflow. Oftentimes saying no to others allow you to say yes to yourself. When someone ask you for something, don't make your default answer, yes or ofcourse but make your default response, "no" or "let me check my calendar and obligations and get back with you". That gives you time to take a step back and think about whether or not, you have the capacity to accommodate their request without jeopardizing your well-being.
This is me! Co-Founder of Be Ye Transformed Networks a global Faith-based organization, The Dating Prep School and Healthy Happy Love Co. reaching over 10,000 young women in 22 states across the US. She has been nominated and selected for the Power of She Award and recognized two years in a row for her notable participation with the Black Women in Business and Entrepreneurship. She is a Best-Selling author for her book, the Biggest Lies Women, Believe, about Men, Dating & Themselves. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 3: Violesia Tull, Organizing Your Environment.
I come a long way in the loving yourself department. I can recall as a little child always loosing things that was of a significant value or having something precious taking from me. Until I woke up one morning and all those things compounded. Depression was feeding off the lack of motivation and the lack of motivation was nurturing the disorganization and clutter. But the real problem was security and uncertainty. I begin holding on to things that had no value and letting go of stuff that did. My value and self-love was way off. We have to be comfortable with getting uncomfortable in parting ways with stuff that's no longer serving a particular space in our lives and in our closet. If I her another person say, I going to hold on to those pants until I lose weight. I'm going tickle them! But real problem with this mindset is that you're telling yourself. You don't deserve to look and feel Beautiful until you reach your weight goal.
If there's one things I hope that you walk away with and it this, love yourself enough to let go those things and garments that's no longer speaking your style and trust that you deserve better and better is coming.
I had to get clear with myself before I could manifest anything. This loving myself allowed me to manifest because I was unwilling to compromise the new found value of loving me. If clutter triggered depression and all those other emotions then I know I couldn't compromise not keeping my place clean and my wardrobe organized. Don't risk your freedom trying to hold on to avoidance. I now have the relationship that I've always prayed for and desired by learning to love myself and develop a blossoming relationship with my Heavenly Father and you can too. Begin with seeking Him and all other things will fall into place.
Violesia Tull was born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. She attended Northwestern High school where her subjects of interest were business and marketing. She started her first business while still in high school - creating buttons for various organizations/clubs and businesses including major brands such as Pimlico Race Track and Baltimore Urban League.
When Violesia isn’t being Super - Mom a to her three children, she is coming up with creative ways to serve women by helping to improve their self-confidence and creativity regarding style and fashion.
Violesia currently serve as a Lead Fashion Stylist with Speak Life Tour - which provide platforms for youth to perform creative expression. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 4: Trevor Otts, CEO/Founder of Black CEO
#1 rule "Don't grow alone", one of the leading reason you aren't achieving your goal and living your best life may "because you are with people who aren't align with your purpose. There is no abundance where there is no stewardship and there is no stewardship where there is no investment." What do you need to invest in so you can start stewarding your investment?
Trevor Otts is the Founder of BlackCEO has been called the Billion Dollar Brand Man, the Profit Pioneer, and an Automation Apostle. He prefers Marketing God. You can take your pick. He is as brazen as he is brilliant. Trevor is the automation and marketing mastermind behind some of the most remarkable sales, business and thought leaders in the world. With a revolutionary formula of cutting-edge technology, sales methodology and global reach, he has devised campaigns that have generated multiple millions of dollars for his clients. He recently introduced his ground-breaking Evergreen Revenue Model to market, teaching business leaders how to join the ranks of renowned brands like Netflix and Apple with universal impact and wealth. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 4: Aprille Frank, CEO Coach, Speak & Serve
"You would think that this is a question that would not need to be asked. But the truth is many people struggle with self-love. They struggle with unworthiness, validation, lack of acceptance from others, they struggle with the judgment of others because they are not perfect. So it was saying that this question should not need to be asked, but the truth is it doesn’t need to. It’s important to love yourself, but before that you first have to know yourself. The journey to knowing yourself is I think what opens up the revelations for loving yourself. And excepting yourself. Because I believe a part of love is acceptance.
To your second question, why is it important to love yourself and how has loving yourself help you to manifest like the relationship he desire? I believe like attracts like, and I don’t think that you can attract something that you don’t already possess. I don’t think an unhappy person can attract happiness, I don’t think a sad person attracts a happy person, I don’t think a person that does not love them selves can attract someone who does, that would serve them in the way that they need it. Someone fully understands who they are, and accepts themselves for who they are, and removes self judgment, and forgives oneself then it opens up the space for one to love themselves. When that self-love is in place, and one is at their best, feeling their best, experiencing life in a happy way, then I believe you can attract and manifest what you desire in life, relationships, business or whatever you want.
On the topic of limiting mindset and beliefs around money, I believe this also has a foundation of a lack of self-worth. This feeling of somehow being undeserving of success and abundance.
You can hardly have a talk around improving one’s mindset and their beliefs around money without first discussing how one views themselves, and their self-worth. I believe that they are uniquely intertwined.
I believe one holds themselves in their own deep admiration, and self love and respect, there comes a certain confidence with that knowing. And I believe that knowing has no choice but to expect to be treated fairly, to charge appropriately, and to not be taken advantage of."
Aprille Franks is a Master Business Coach, Strategic Profit Catalyst, and Author Aprille is the brainchild of several highly engaged brands. Coach, Speak and Serve, a next-level consulting firm that helps modern-day authors, speakers and coaches to create profitable brands that impact the world. Women Recharged, a motivational movement that amplifies women’s voices and triumphant stories of truth, and Coach, Speak and Serve, a next-level consulting company that helps modern-day authors, speakers and coaches to maximize and monetize their messages. To date, Aprille’s brands have a reach of over 1M with transformational training, coaching and support, establishing her as the go-to expert for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to do business on a higher plane and, in turn, reap higher profits. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 5: Lucinda Cross, CEO of Activate Worldwide
"It's important to me to love yourself and manifesting the life you desire because it demonstrates a level of commitment of getting clear on what you want, being a vibrational match to those whom you come in contact with and connecting with energy, oneness and crushing on yourself and others. "
Lucinda Cross Otiti CEO of Activate Worldwide a best-selling author, internationally known speaker, TV personality, and energetic teacher of personal and professional development. Activate WorldWide is a leadership services firm that specializes in marketing and consulting those who are considered “the best-kept secret” to building a marketable, brandable and scalable business model.
Lucinda creates and delivers products and services such as seminars, workshops, and training that’s designed for entrepreneurial women, millennials and at-risk youth. Her programs are also captured to enriching the lives of professional women and re-entry citizens seeking personal growth. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Day 5: Bishop R.C. Blakes Jr.
"Loving yourself first is paramount to getting into a relationship. You cannot love another person effectively unless you love yourself."
RC Blakes, Jr., has been in ministry since 1981 and has been pastoring since 1987. He serves as the Senior Pastor of the New Home Family Worship Center in New Orleans, Louisiana and Houston, Texas. His literary work include, but is not limited to The Father Daughter Talk Book which has attracted global attention. His follow up book QUEENOLOGY has ignited a life changing movement for women across the world. He and his wife Lisa are also the Authors of the book, God's Playbook For A Winning Family, that has brought restoration to many families. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
Grand Finale with Jill Bulluck & Treal Ravenel
Love is kind, it doesn't compare oneself against others, it does not parade it's self in one's own righteousness and it doesn't put the needs and desires of others above its own needs. So many times as women we give time, energy and emotions to things and people that doesn't serve our best interest but today is a dawning of a new day. I want you to declare today, to be the last day for that and the first day to putting your need back on top. Your need to be fed spiritually, your need to be supported emotionally, your need to be creating abundance financially, your need to have an environment and atmosphere of peace, your need for a healthy lifestyle, down to size healthy and having the capacity and energy to love others from you overflow. The challenge may be over but we are just beginning. This Thursday we will be sharing How to Transform Your Life with Five Sample Steps Even if You Tried in the Past and it Didn't Work, Without Spending Thousands of Dollars on dozen of coaches, consultants and advisers.
I am America's #1 Young Successful Christian Singles Transformational Scientist, Mindset Architect and Manifestation Coach. Me and my sister, Treal Ravenel, America's #1 Life and Marriage Transformational Scientist co-founded Be Ye Transformed Networks, which is a global movement to equip Believers to love responsibly, lead exceptionally and dream unapologetically. We started the Be Ye Transformed Academy which is a mentoring program that provides continuous learning through live training, development, accountability, and community to those who are serious about taking their life to the next level. Thanks for allowing us to walk this journey called life. We can't want to see how God is going to make your life unrecognizable. Click here to join to catch checkout the highlight replays for a limited time.
The bible clearly demonstrates that in 1 John 4:7-21 (vs 7: 8 “7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”). What this scripture tells me is that everyone who loves has been born of God and our very nature should exude love.
How many of you will be bold enough to admit that although you know this, you haven’t always practiced this (even after you gave your life to Christ)? God is the very essence of love and demonstrate throughout scripture, beyond 1 John 4, of how we should love others and ourselves.
I will be the first to admit that I haven’t always loved God, myself, or others in the way that God loves me.
Some would say that loving yourself is a selfish act and you can become self-absorbed in doing so.
As women, we oftentimes fall victim to not loving ourselves. Instead, we dance to the beat of everyone else’s drum. We put our lives, goals, and dreams to the side because we want to please others in making them happy.
As women, we oftentimes forget about ourselves and it isn’t until the kids are in college or out of the house or 20+ years of marriage have gone by that we realized we have neglected Self-love!
As women, we oftentimes think the more we acquire by tangible means that will fill our love tank.
May I submit to you that loving yourself first is a necessity and here is why:
Loving Yourself More helps you to Accept the women you are and becoming.
Loving Yourself More helps you to Develop a Healthier Lifestyle and Mindset!
Loving Yourself More Teaches you how to Overcome Adversity!
Loving Yourself More helps you to Build Confidence!
Loving Yourself More focus on your Physical, Mental, and Psychological Health!
There are 7 Pillars for Self-Love and as I share them with you, I want you to take inventory of your life to see what areas you need to improve in so you can Love Yourself More:
If any of these resonated with you and you admit that you need help in one of more of these areas, I invite you to join us on a 7 Day Loving Me More Journey!
On Friday, April 12th at 8PM EST, we are kicking off the Loving ME More Challenge!
Click here for More details and to join for FREE!
After you sign-up, you will be directed to our Facebook community, be sure to join and take a minute to introduce yourself, why you signed up for the Loving Me More Challenge, and one thing you hope to get from it.
Keep a lookout for updates as we prep for this life changing event!
Jill Bulluck and Treal Ravenel, are the Co-Founders of Be Ye Transformation Networks a global Christian organization dedicated to equip millennial and millennial minded professionals and emerging leaders to love responsibly, lead exceptionally and dream unapologetically.